Well Written Obituaries

[Petee]

I absolutely love to read well written obituaries about people who have lived good productive lives in our area.  It makes you feel like there was another friend in the area that you just didn't get a chance to meet, and makes you wonder how many more there could be waiting to be found!

[BigT]

Petee , I have always wondered who wrote the obituaries you are referring to. When we prearranged our funerals we also included a draft of what we wanted in our obituary. That way our children can edit it without too much effort. 

Trying to get the details of one’s life for a good obituary at a sad time isn’t fair for the survivors.

 

[Petee]

11 hours ago, BigT said:

Petee , I have always wondered who wrote the obituaries you are referring to. When we prearranged our funerals we also included a draft of what we wanted in our obituary. That way our children can edit it without too much effort. 

Trying to get the details of one’s life for a good obituary at a sad time isn’t fair for the survivors.

 

The funeral director can put together a basic obituary from the details of a person's family.  However, for someone to really understand the person who passed away, it takes thought ahead of time.  The long detailed ones are indicative of the personality of a person who was driven to achieve well beyond the norm, and sometimes they use a professional writer ahead of time.  A comfortable community person will list their achievements and groups they supported.  This is probably written ahead of time by the person and a family member.  

It's a good idea to just do an outline of what you want in your obituary and leave it with whomever is going to be your executor so they have it when it is needed.  You can make additions and corrections that way too till you feel comfortable with it.